Monday, February 22, 2010

Tala al Badr

Advice of Wisdom for Husbands

  • Never hand your pay-packet to your wife.
  • Never introduce your wife into your business
  • Never inform her of the amount you earn
  • Never inform her of what you spend o­n your parents and other needy relatives
  • Never make it an obligation o­n you to take her out every weekend for a drive, etc.
A man should treat his wife kindly and justly. Spend o­n her lavishly within your means. Do not be miserly. Buy her gifts. Tolerate her indiscretion and nonsense. Assist her in the home. Do not impose your worldly desires o­n her. Do not regard her as your maid. Provide a maid for her if you can afford. But, never break the ‘NEVER’ rules enumerated above. Remember that most wives are extremely spiteful. From the very first day of their arrival they cherish an inveterate dislike for their in-laws. They conspire to dominate their husbands and will plot to sever his ties from his parents and other relatives. A man must not destroy his Imaan by abandoning his parents at the evil behest of his wife. A man will remain independent and will be able to freely engage in acts of Sadqah(charity) and Silah Rahmi (Kindness to relatives) as long as he does not introduce his wife into his business affairs. A wife craves the inordinate desire that her husband must spend every cent he earns o­n her and her children. Most wives abhor that their husbands spend o­n their needy relatives —parents, brothers, sisters, etc. Marriage does not and cannot extinguish the Huqooq which a man has to fulfil towards relatives and the community.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

The ungrateful nature of man

“Man does not get tired of asking for good; but if an evil touches him, then he gives up all hope and is lost in despair. And truly, if We give him a taste of mercy from Us, after some adversity has touched him, he is sure to say: ‘This is due to my (merit); I think not that the Hour will be established. But if I am brought back to my Lord, surely there will be for me the best with Him.’ Then, We verily will show to the disbelievers what they have done, and We shall make them taste a severe torment. And when We show favor to man, he turns away and becomes arrogant; but when evil touches him, then he has recourse to long supplications.” * (Qur’an, 41:49-51)*

Ibn Kathir writes in his commentary on the above verses: Allah tells us that man never gets tired of asking his Lord for good things, such as wealth, physical health, etc., but if evil touches him – trials and difficulties or poverty – “then he gives up all hope and is lost in despair.” He thinks that he will never experience anything good again.

If something good happens to him or some provision comes to him after a period of difficulty, man says, ‘this is because of me, because I deserve this from my Lord.’

The verse “I think not that the Hour will be established” means that he does not believe the Day of Judgment will come. So when he is given some blessing, he becomes careless, arrogant and ungrateful. Allah says: “Nay! Verily, man does transgress. Because he considers himself self-sufficient.” *(Qur’an, 96:6)*

The verse “But if I am brought back to my Lord, surely there will be for me the best with Him” shows man’s feelings that if there were a Hereafter after all, then my Lord will be generous and kind to me just as He was in this world. So he expects Allah to do him favors in spite of his bad deeds and lack of firm faith. Allah then says: “Then, We verily will show to the disbelievers what they have done, and We shall make them taste a severe torment.” Allah threatens punishment and vengeance to those whose conduct and belief is like that.

The verse “And when We show favor to man, he turns away and becomes arrogant” means that man turns away from doing acts of obedience and is too proud to obey the commands of Allah. This is like the verse: “But Pharaoh turned away along with his hosts.” *(Qur’an, 51:39)*

Allah continues to say about man that “when evil touches him,” which means difficulties, “then he has recourse to long supplications.”

Man asks at length for one thing. Long supplications are those which are long in words, but short in meaning. The opposite is concise speech, which is brief but full of meaning.

Allah also says: “And when harm touches man, he invokes Us, lying on his side, or sitting or standing. But when We have removed his harm from him, he passes on as if he had never invoked Us for a harm that touched him!) *(Qur’an, 10:12)*

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I'm Pious so I'm Safe From Shaytaan, Right?

Imaam Ahmad bin Hanbal (rh) was a rock of Imaan (faith) and courage. He endured so much hardship, and he sacrificed so much for the sake of Islam that it is said that not even an elephant could not have endured his burdens. Once, whilst Imaam Ahmad (rh) was laying unconscious at his death bed, the people around him were saying: 'Laa ilaaha il lal laah (There is absolutely nothing worthy of worship at all in the heavens above nor the earth below, except Allah).' However, Imaam Ahmad (rh) repeatedly said: "No... Not yet! Not yet!" This concerned the people around him, so when Imaam Ahmad (rh) regained consciousness, his son asked him about his statement. Imaam Ahmad (rh) said: "Shaytaan (the devil) came to me and said: 'O Ahmad, you have escaped me with your faith intact!' So I replied: 'No.... Not yet! Not yet! I am not safe from you until my soul passes from this world!'

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

The four categories of Kufr

There are four kinds of kufr, viz. Kufr Jahl, Kufr Juhood, Kufr Shakk and Kufr Ta’weel. The o­ne guilty of any of these types of kufr is described as a kaafir in the Shariah.


This means kufr occasioned by ignorance. Islam or the teachings of Islam are denied o­n the basis of ignorance. The rejector believes that the claim of Islam is false. This was the type of kufr of Abu Jahl and his compatriots.


This means deliberate kufr. The denial of Islam or its teachings is occasioned deliberately, inspite of realising its truth. This type of kufr is the result of rebellion and obstinacy. This was the type of kufr of the Ahl-e-Kitaab (the Jews and Christians). This is also the kufr of Iblees (shaitaan).


This means kufr occasioned by doubt. The denier doubts the truth of Islam.


This means kufr by way of interpretation. The kufr is not committed by outright rejection, but is rendered by means of interpretation. A belief or teaching of Islam is distorted or given an interpretation or meaning other than what was the meaning ascribed to it by Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam).

Of the four types of kufr, the last viz. Kufr Ta’weel is the most common nowadays among those who were born Muslim. Corrupt interpretation is widely employed by Muslims to distort the true beliefs and teachings of Islam. By such baatil ta’weel (baseless and corrupt interpretation), Qur’aanic verses and Ahaadith are given meanings which conflict with their true and original meanings explained by Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). By means of this type of kufr, numerous born Muslims have become kaafirs.

“In mankind are such men who dispute in the aayaat of Allah without having any knowledge, and they follow every rebellious shaitaan.” (Qur’aan)

The Weak

"The weak, the forlorn and the poor should not grieve. o­n the contrary, they should be happy. Parents usually care more for their handicapped and weaker children. Similarly, Allah's special Gaze of Rahmat is focussed o­n the weak and oppressed o­nes."

(Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi)

Tawakkul and Rizq

If you had to adopt tawakkul (trust) o­n Allah in the proper meaning of tawakkul, then He will bestow rizq (sustenance) to you in the same way as the birds are being fed. They emerge (from their nests) in the morning hungry and they return in the evening satiated." (Hadith)

Consensus of 700 Ulama

Hadhrat Shaqeeq Balkhi (rahmatullah alayh) said that 700 Ulama were asked:

"Who is an intelligent man? Who is a wise man? Who is a wealthy man? Who is a durwaish (holy man)? Who is a miser? All of them unanimously replied:

`He who does not befriend the world is an intelligent man. He who is not trapped in the deception of the world is a wise man. He who is contented with his taqdeer (what Allah has ordained for him) is a wealthy man. He who does not beg is a holy man. He who withholds Allah's wealth from His creation is a miser."

Monday, February 1, 2010

Simple Roohaani prescription

FOR PROTECTION AGAINST enemies - human and jinn enemies, recite Surah Ikhlaas, Surah Falaq and Surah Naas thrice, every morning and evening.

Recite the last Ruku' of Surah Baqarah every night before going to bed. After every Salaat recite Aayatul Kursi. Endeavour to inculcate Allah's remembrance by reciting 'Allaahu' and 'Laa ilahaa il-lal-laahu' throughout the day in all walks and conditions.

Remember that the efficacy of these prescriptions is commensurate with the degree of obedience and taqwa. The greater the taqwa, the more will be the beneficial effect of these forms of Thikr. However, everyone, regardless of his lack of taqwa should practise these athkaar (plural of thikr). Some benefit will most assuredly be acquired.

Tasbeeh of the Malaaikah

A group of angels in the Heavens continuously recite:

"Glorious is Allah who has adorned men with beards and women with tresses."

The Fruits of Generosity

Hadhrat Sheikh Ali bin Muwaffiq (rahmatullah alayh) had performed more than fifty Hajj. He had asked Allah Ta`ala to bestow the thawaab of all his Hajj to Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), Hadhrat Abu Bakr, Hadhrat Umar, Hadhrat Uthmaan, Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhum) and to his parents. He had o­nly o­ne Hajj remaining to his credit. This particular year, standing o­n the plain of Arafaat, he supplicated:

"O Allah! If there is anyone here whose Hajj has not been accepted, award my Hajj to him."

That night while sleeping at Muzdalifah, he saw Allah Ta`ala in a dream, proclaiming:

"O Ali bin Muwaffiq! By virtue of your generosity I have forgiven the People of Wuqoof (the Hujjaj) as well as four times their number. And, I shall accept the intercession of each o­ne of them o­n behalf of his family, friends and neighbours. I am The o­ne of Holiness and Forgiveness."