Monday, September 17, 2007

Duaa during Ifthaar time....

Once Prophet Moosa (AS) asked Allah Ta'ala: O Allah ! you have granted me the honour and privilege of talking to you directly, Have you given thisprivilege to any other person?

Allah Ta'ala replied,

"O Moosa during the last period I am going to send an ummat, who will be the Ummat of Mohammed (SAW) with dry lips , parched tongues, emaciated body with eyes sunken deep into their sockets, with livers dry and stomachs suffering the pangs of hunger- will call out to me (in dua) they will be much much closer to me than you O Moosa! while you speak to me there are 70000 veils between you and me but at the time of iftaar (breakfast) there will not be a single veil between me and the fasting Ummati of Mohammed (SAW) O moosa I have taken upon myself the responsibility that at the time of iftaar I will never refuse the dua of a fasting person!"

May all of our dua be granted during this blessed month inshaAllah!

Saturday, September 15, 2007

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

RAMADAAN - رمضان

RAMADAAN MUBARAK
How many people that fasted Ramadan last year are no longer with us anymore? We might not be present for the next Ramadan, so we should not take it for granted.
this year ramazan is entirely a very different chapter for me, my family siblings & for my father too. My mother was with US LAST RAMAZAN. this year she is not with US! SHE has started her life in AHLAMUL BARZAGH.

May Almighty GRANT my Ummi, the Ummah who have already started the life in Ahlamul Barzagh the highest level in the Jennathul Firdhouse! Ameen!

Saturday, September 8, 2007

Nasheed "Zaman Awal" نشيد "زمان أول" لمشاري العراده

نشيد "رمضان" الرائع لمشاري العرادة Great "Ramadan" Nasheed

Ramadhan - رمضان

Islam: Top 5 Qaris In The World: Quran

سورة الرحمن سعد الغامدي Sheikh Sa'ad Al-Ghamdi surah Rahman

Surah Hadeed - Sa'ad Al Ghamdi (Verse 20-29)

Bounties of Jannat

When Mu'min will enter into Jannah, it will be announced:-
(1) You will remain healthy forever, disease will never come.
(2) You will remain alive for ever, death will never come.
(3) You will remain in bounties which will never be finished.

Jannat is made with bricks of gold and silver, Its scent is of perfumed musk. Its chips are pearls and Yaqoot. Its sand is Zafraan.

There are eight doors of Jannah. these are eight grades of Jannat:-

i) Jannatul Mava
ii) Darul Maqaam
iii) Darul Salaam
iv) Darul Khuld
v) Jannat-ul-Adan
vi) Jannat-ul-Naeem
vii) Jannat-ul-Kasif
viii) Jannat-ul-Firdous

Food of Jannah

They will eat foods and fruits continuously up to 40 years. Every bowl will have a new taste. They will take eructation which will digest the food and there will be perfumed sweating for the digestion of water.There will be no urine and stool.

There will be gardens in Jannah. Every garden will have the length of about 100 years journey. The shadow of these gardens will be very dense. Their plants will be free of thorns. The size of their leaves will be equal to ears of elephants. Their fruits will be hanging in rows.

Jannatul Mava is in the lowest, Jannat-ul-Adan is the middle and Jannat-ul - Firdous is on the highest. Those who love each other for the sake of Allah, will get a pillar of Yaqoot, on which there will be seventy thousand (70,000) rooms. These will shine for the residents of Jannah as the sun shines for the residents of Duniya.

There will be rooms in Jannah in such a way that every room will have seventy thousand (70,000) dinning sheets. On every dinning sheet 70,000 types of foods will be served.

For their service 80,000 young boys will be moving around looking like beautiful scattered pearls.

One bunch of dates will be equal to the length of 12 arms. The size of a date will be equal to the big pitcher. These will be whiter than milk, sweeter than honey and softer than butter and free of seeds. The stem of these plants will be made up of gold and silver.

There will also be gardens of grapes. The bunches of grapes will be very big. The size of a single grape will be equal to a big pitcher (pot). Someone asked, Ya Rasulullah (Sallalahu alaihi wasallam): will it be sufficient for me and my family. It was answered, it will be sufficient for you and your whole tribe.

The Dresses of Jannat

The dress of Jannah will be very beautiful. One will wear 70 dresses at a time.

These will be very fine, delicate, weightless, having different colors. These dresses will be so fine that the body even the heart will be visible. And the waves of love in the hearts will also be visible. These dresses will never become old, never be dirty and will never tear. There will be four canals in every Jannah. They are of water, milk, honey and Sharabun Tahoora. There will also be three fountains in Jannah. (i) Kafoor. (ii) Zanjabeel. (iii) Tasneem

Qualities of People of Jannah

  • In Jannah, height of every Mo 'min, will be equal to the height of Adam (Alaihissalaam) 60 arms (90 feet).
  • Beauty will be like that of Yousuf (Alaihissalaam)
  • Age of youth will be like that of Esa (Alaihissalaam) (30-33 years).
  • Sweetness of voice will be like that of Hazrat Dawud (Alaihissalaam).
  • Tolerance will be like that of Yaqoob (Alaihissalaam)
  • Patience will be like that of Ayyub (Alaihissalaam.)
  • Habits will be like that of Sayyaduna Muhammad (Sallalahu alaihi wasallam.)

If a person makes Du 'a for Jannah three times, Jannah requests Allah that O, Allah; make his entry into Jannah. And if a person makes Du'a for safety from Jahannum three times, the Jahannnum requests Allah that, O, Allah; save him from Jahannum.

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

Like the Butterfly

thought to share an email received today..

We have been given the precious gift of Life. And that life is short.We have only one chance. And this is it. If you have not thought about it, now is the time to do so. What is the purpose of life? Have you given thought to that before?

The life of this world is very alluring. And many people are attached to it. Very dear to them are the things that this worldly life has to offer. The religion of man should teach him how to avoid its traps. For traps they are.

The life of this world is evil. Nothing in it is good. It is an illusion. Attractive but deadly. It has many people ensnared. These words are going to sound pretty unpleasant to some. But this is reality. This is the Truth.

Just think. Everything in this worldly life perishes. Nothing lasts. There are the agents of destruction at work at all times. We need to constantly keep clean. There are germs, bacteria. Dust.

In the world of man, there is a lot of filth and dirt. To survive, mankind has to maintain cleanliness.
The law of the universe has been set up in such a way that if man does not keep clean, he will fall sick and die.

Of all creatures on this planet, it is man who has to strive the most to keep clean. In other words, the purpose of man's life is to constantly strive to be clean.

Failure to keep clean is a calamity for man. Have you ever wondered why there are all these germs and bacteria? Why all these hazards?

The answer is pretty simple. God made this world like that. Because He wants us to be clean. Not only that........ He wants us to constantly strive and struggle to keep clean.

And for man, it is not just physical cleanliness that is important. It is cleanliness on the inside as well. Cleanliness, meaning purity of heart.

And this purity of heart can only be achieved if man chooses the path of Truth. The religion of Truth.
For Truth alone is Pure. So what is the purpose of life?

To strive. To struggle. To keep clean. On the outside as well as on the inside.

It requires effort to keep our house clean, neat and tidy. To keep our gardens free of weeds. It requires work. And constant work. A constant struggle. Just like the butterfly. It struggles to get out of the coccoon.

But its struggling and striving has transformed it into a beautiful creature.

Saturday, September 1, 2007

23 F’s for a Happy Marriage

  1. Faith: The most basic and essential attribute of a Muslim marriage is the common faith that binds the couple. Since Islam is a way of life and not just a religion confined to weekly worship it becomes an integral part of a Muslim's life. The frame of reference shared by the couple eases communication and sharing of values which is not possible in an interfaith marriage. It is highly recommended that faith play an important role in the developing a loving relationship.
    For example, as the Prophet Muhammad (SAW- peace and blessings be upon him) said,
    that even if a husband places a morsel of food in his wife's mouth, he gets a reward for this act and Allah increases the bond of love between them. So when we love each other for the sake of Allah WE ACTUALLY INCREASE OUR FAITH.
  2. Forgiving: When the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) asked his Companions ‘do you wish that Allah should forgive you' they said, of course O Prophet of Allah. He responded, ‘then forgive each other'.
    One of the main components of a happy marriage is that the spouses are able to forgive, that they do not hold grudges or act judgmental towards each other. It is expected that when we live with someone, situations may arise when we end up saying or doing things that hurt our spouses. The challenge is not to dwell on it or lay blame but to move past it. This can only happen if we are not too proud to ask for forgiveness and we are not stingy to forgive.
    If we expect Allah to forgive us then we must learn to forgive.
  3. Forget: When we constantly remind our spouses of all the times they let us down or hurt us we have not truly forgiven. Things that happened in the past must be left there and not be used as fresh ammunition in new situations. Couples who use this technique usually fall in a rut and become victims of their own pettiness, unable to break free.
  4. Forbearance: Sabr (patience) is the most useful tool to have in managing a healthy lifestyle. Being patient and forbearing puts us in a pro-active frame of mind it brings us closer to Allah through Tawakul (trust) and reliance .We develop an inner mechanism that empowers us to handle life's difficult moments. As Allah states in Surah (chapter)al- Asr:
    "Surely by time humans are at loss, except those who believe and do righteous deeds and counsel each other to the truth and counsel each other to Sabr (patience)' (Quran, chapter 103).
  5. Flexible: Many couples un-necessarily make themselves miserable because they are unwilling to bend a little.
    We should not expect our spouses to be our extensions. They are their own selves with personalities, likes and dislikes. We must respect their right to be them selves as long as it does not compromise their Deen (religion). Being inflexible and not accommodating for individual differences leads to a very stressful and tense home atmosphere.
  6. Friendship: This aspect of marriage has three components.
    First is to develop a friendship with our spouses. The relationship based on friendship is more able to withstand outside pressures.
    We honor, trust, respect, accept and care for our friends, in spite of our differences. These are the aspects of friendship we should bring to our marriages.
    Unfortunately the only aspect that people think of bringing to their marriage which is highly inappropriate is the buddy scenario. Shariah (Islamic law) has placed the husband in a leadership role within a family. This requires a certain decorum, which cannot be maintained if the spouses consider each other as pals.
    This should not be taken to mean that husband is a dictator but a shepherd who is responsible for and to his flock. This is a position of grave responsibility and places an enormous burden on the husband. Furthermore the children need to see their parents as friends but not as pals as this encourages disrespect.
  7. Friendly: Second aspect of friendship is to have friendly relations with in-laws. When couples compete as to whose parents are more important it becomes a constant source of grief. Much valuable time is wasted trying to convince, one another of whose parents are most desirable. It is better if we accept, that our spouses will not overnight fall in love with our parents just because we want them to. As long as they maintain friendly relations that are cordial and based on mutual respect we should not force the issue.
  8. Friends: The third aspect of friendship is our circle of friends. It is okay to have individual friends of the same gender but couples must also make effort to have family friends so that they can socialize together. If there is friction being caused by a certain friendship it must not be pursued at the expense of the marriage. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) advised us to choose God fearing people as friends since we tend to follow their way. Friends should be a source of joy and not mischief.
  9. Fun: Couples that do not laugh together have to work on sharing some fun times. The Prophet (SAW) was known to play with his wives. A simple walk in the park can add much spark to the relationship. Taking up a sport together or watching clean funny movies is another way of sharing a laugh.
  10. Faithful: It is commanded by Allah that we be faithful to our spouses. Adultery is a capital crime in Islam that is punishable by death. However there are various forms of unfaithful behavior prevalent among some Muslims.
    The most common form is maintaining friendships with the opposite sex over the boundaries set by Islam, and the misgivings of the spouse. The latest trend of Internet relationships is also contrary to Islamic Adab (etiquette) and is causing serious problems between couples. Once a sense of betrayal sets in, repairing that relationship is difficult. Another form of not being faithful is when couples betray confidences (trusts/promises) . This is a trust issue and one when compromised eats away at the heart of a marriage.
  11. Fair: Usually when we are angry or displeased the tendency is to not play fair. We try to convince ourselves that since we have been wronged it is okay to be unjust in our behavior and our statements. Allah states in the Quran do not be unjust under any circumstances, even if they be your enemy, and here we are talking about our life partners and the parent of our children. To use words such as "never" and "always" when describing the behavior of the partner is unfair and puts the other on the defensive.
  12. Finance: One of the most common points of contention in marriages is money. Experts tell us that 80 percent of marital conflicts are about money.
    It is therefore highly recommended that the couple put serious time and effort in developing a financial management plan that is mutually agreeable and is reviewed every six months or so. Preparing a budget together is also a helpful and wise way to handling household finances. It should be remembered that the wife's money in Islam is hers to do with as she pleases and therefore should not be considered family income unless she chooses to contribute it to the family
  13. Family: Parenting can be a stressful experience if the parents are not well informed. This in turn can put extra pressure on the marriage.
    Sometimes couples are naive about the changes that come in the lifestyle. This can cause in some cases depression and in some resentment and misunderstandings. One golden rule that must always be the guide is; that family comes first.
    Whenever there is evidence that the family is not happy or not our first priority it is time to assemble at the kitchen table and discuss with open hearts and mind.
  14. Feelings: Prophet Muhammad (SAW) stated that Allah forgives all sins if we repent but not those we have committed against others i.e. hurt their feelings unless the person we have hurt forgives first.
    Couples are sometimes very careless when it comes to their spouse's feelings, they take them for granted and assume that the other knows what they mean. It is surprising that people are more sensitive and courteous to strangers than they are to their loved ones. One must be ever vigilant and careful that they do not hurt the feelings of their spouses and if they invariably do, they should apologize as soon as possible. Since one does not know when someone they love will leave this world, is it not better to make amends when we have the time?
  15. Freedom: Marriage in Islam is a partnership and not bondage or slavery. To consider the wife one's property is alien to Islamic concept of husband and wife role. The team spirit is enhanced and not curtailed when members of the team are free to be themselves. Freedom in the common western since is to be free to do as one pleases or to be selfish. On the contrary, to allow freedom to one's spouse is to be considerate of their needs and to recognize their limitations.
  16. Flirtation: A sure way to keep romance in marriage is to flirt (only) with your spouse. Many successful marriages have maintained a youthful demeanor in their marriages by adopting special names for each other and secret communication styles.
  17. Frank: Misunderstandings happen when couples are not honest with each other. Marital relationship is where the partners must feel safe to speak their mind with due consideration to the other's feeling, without compromising their own views. When the communication is not frank it hinders in the development of closeness and deep understanding of each other's inner self.
  18. Facilitator: When choosing our life partner, we must, as the Prophet (SAW) advised, look for a pious Muslim. The reason is that their first and foremost goal is the pleasure of Allah. This commitment to Allah makes them an excellent facilitator (someone who makes things easy) for enhancing their partner's spiritual development. In essence, the couple facilitates their family's commitment to Allah and His Deen.
  19. Flattering: Paying compliments and indulging in honest flattery is a very inexpensive way to win your spouse's heart. Everyone likes to be appreciated and noticed. So being stingy about compliments is actually depriving oneself of being appreciated in return.
  20. Fulfilling: To be all one can be to one's spouse is a very fulfilling and rewarding experience. To be in love means to give one's all. The heart does not put conditions or make stipulations. It gives without expecting anything in return, but such selfless giving is always rewarded tenfold.
  21. Fallible: It often happens that our expectations sometimes are so high that we lose focus of the fact that we are fallible (not perfect/make mistakes) beings. When couples start to nitpick and demand the impossible they must remind themselves that only Allah is perfect.
  22. Fondness: So many times couples fail to work on developing fondness for each other by [failing] to see their spouses as people through the eyes of their respective friends. Spending quality time alone doing and sharing activities are ways in which one can develop fondness.
  23. Future: Smart couples plan for their future together. They work on their financial and retirement plans, make wills and discuss these plans with their children. This provides peace of mind and secures the relationship.