Whatever is written for you will unerringly come to you

A person who is impatient about his sustenance, worried about why he has so little, and unsatisfied at being lower than others in worldly status is like one who precedes the Imam when going from one stage of prayer to the next. At the end, he cannot make Salaams (the final action that makes the prayer complete) until after the Imam has done so. Similarly, one does not die until he receives all of the provision that was decreed for him. Sustenance and provision were preordained and decided upon fifty thousand years before the creation was created.

The Event ordained by Allah will come to pass, so seek not to hasten it.
[Qur'an 16: 1]

And if He intends any good for you there is none who can repel His Favor...
[Qur'an 10: 107]

Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

"O' Allah, I seek refuge in you from the stamina of the wicked person and from the feebleness that accompanies (a false) confidence."

This phrase has a very significant meaning. As I contemplated key events in history, I found that many of Allah's enemies had prodigious levels of fortitude, hardiness, and perseverance. In contrast, I found that many Muslims were insipid, lethargic, and feeble, all the while thinking and falsely so - that they were putting their trust in Allah. A true trust in Allah requires striving and working, and then leaving the results to Allah.

[Dont be sad]

Happiness is a Divine gift that does not distinguish between the rich and the poor

It is not uncommon to see laborers who are so poor that whatever they earn on any given day is spent on that same day. Yet many of them are happy, peaceful, with strong hearts and tranquil souls. This is because they are too busy to think about yesterday or tomorrow. Their life-style has given them an appreciation of today since they have not been afforded the opportunity of thinking about anything else.

Compare these to those who live in mansions. Inactivity and free time have afforded them with plentiful time to think about their problems and their lack of purpose in life. Thus misery and worry afflict many of them day and night.

[Dont be sad]

The past is gone forever

By brooding over the past and its tragedies, one exhibits a form of insanity - a kind of sickness that destroys resolve to live for the present moment. Those who have a firm purpose have filed away and forgotten occurrences of the past, which will never again see light, since they occupy such a dark place in the recesses of the mind.

Episodes of the past are finished with; sadness cannot retrieve them, melancholy cannot make things right, and depression will never bring the past back to life. This is because the past is non-existent.

Do not live in the nightmares of former times or under the shade of what you have missed. Save yourself from the ghostly apparition of the past. Do you think that you can return the sun to its place of rising, the baby to its mother's womb, milk to the udder, or tears to the eye? By constantly dwelling on the past and its happenings, you place yourself in a very frightful and tragic state of mind.

Reading too much into the past is a waste of the present. When Allah mentioned the affairs of the previous nations, He, the Exalted, said:

That was a nation who has passed away.

[Qur'an 2. 134]

Former days are gone and done with, and you benefit nothing by carrying out an autopsy over them, by turning back the wheels of history.

The person who lives in the past is like someone who tries to saw sawdust. Of old, they used to say: "Do not remove the dead from their graves."

Our tragedy is that we are incapable of dealing with the present: neglecting our beautiful castles, we wail over dilapidated buildings. If every man and every jinn were to try jointly to bring back the past, they would most certainly fail. Everything on earth marches forward, preparing for a new season and so should you.

[Dont be Sad]

The ingredients of happiness

1. A thankful heart and a tongue that is moist with the remembrance of Allah. An Arab poet said "Thankfulness, remembrance, and patience, In them are blessings and rewards"

2. Another ingredient of happiness is the keeping of secrets, especially one's own secrets. Among the Arabs there is a famous story of a Bedouin who was entrusted with a secret for a free of twenty dinars. At first he remained true to the deal and then suddenly, in a fit of impatience, he went and returned the money - he wanted to unburden himself from the load of the secret. This is basically because secrecy requires steadfastness, patience, and will power. "Oh my son! Relate not your vision to your brothers" (12:5)

A weakness of man - which is just one of his many weak traits - is that he constantly feels the urge to reveal the details of his personal affairs to others. This sickness is an old one in the annals of history. The soul loves to spread secrets and disseminate stories. The connection between this topic and that of this book is that whoever spread his secrets will inevitably feel regret, sadness, and misery. "And let him be careful and let no man know of you" (18:19)

["Dont be sad", Dr, Aid Al-Qarni]

Things that bring about happiness

1. Good Deeds

whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, whie he (or she) is a true believer (of islamic monotheism) verily, to him we will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision). (16:97)

2. A Pious Wife

"Our lord, bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes. (25:74)

3. A spacious house

The Prophet (PBUH) said "Oh Allah, make my house spacious for me"

4. Sustenance that is derived and earned through honest means

The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said : "Verily, Allah is Tayyib (good and pure), and He does not accept other than what is good and pure".

5.God manners and spirit of fellowship with people.

"And He has made me blessed wheresoever I be" (19:31)

6.Being debt-free and not being a profligate spender.

"And those, who, when they spend, are neither extravagant nor niggardly" (25:67)

"And let not your hand be tied (like a miser) to your neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost reach (like a spendthrift)" (17:29)

["Dont be sad", Dr, Aid Al-Qarni]

How can I still earn reward when I'm dead?

The Messenger of Allah (saw) said: "The good deeds that will reach a believer after his (or her) death are: knowledge which he learned and then spread; a righteous child whom he leaves behind; a copy of the Quran that he leaves as a legacy; a mosque that he built; a house that he built for wayfarers; a canal that he dug; or sadaqah (charity) that he gave during his lifetime when he was in good health. These deeds will reach him after his death."

[Ibn Maajah]

Tawelun Shawqi

Be of the Children of the HEREAFTER

The world is going backwards and the hereafter is coming forward, and each of the two has its own children. So be of the children of the hereafter and do not be the children of this world. for today there is actions [good or bad] but no accountability but tomorrow there will be accountability but no action''

[Sahih Al-Bukhari - Softening Of the Hearts]